Hello Marcello, I found your story very beautiful and meaningful.
Let me tell you briefly about myself.
For years I have taken the road of awareness of change, a lot has changed within me.
Today I'm in the middle between my professional life to old civil servant and frustrating road to bankruptcy and the new trainer and coach who is my life's mission.
I write because I feel, despite the enormous work done on me, that there is this fatal attraction to life programmed into my subconscious.
My parents, I forgive them for this, I planned to have a professional life of frustration and failure.
I think they programmed heavily because when I'm in the part of working life to public servant I always wonder what we're doing them I'm there yet.
Meanwhile woke up my conscious and she started to work very hard. I attended many courses, I became an expert in GNP, I'm specializing in life coaching. I started an association that provides courses, I try every day synergies collaborations etc. ..
So they are divided in half: on the one hand, a professional life of "sewer" for which they have been programmed and the other the way of my dreams.
The difficulties we encounter are many and try to learn something from every episode.
But I feel that there is still plenty to do and why I turn to you.
Thank you
Louis

Louis,

You are never upset for the reason that you believe to be so ...

Before you change what you do, try to feel the way you do and you will see that your discomfort is not derived from the situation they're living, but the disease is within you, and was first to meet that situation. Do not confuse what YOU with what happens or what you own. The successes or failures, what you have achieved, what you've lost that feeling of having "lost precious time that will never return", that wrath from your parents that you have "programmed", etc., etc., are not more than "thinking" and concepts that float in your head. The past has "more real" and more powerful than the present moment and the imagined future is often uncertain.

We want the "world" will reassure us, but we do not understand that the world is the most unstable thing that could ever exist. When we base our "identity" through what we have achieved or not, what we have or not have, we can NEVER be satisfied and happy. Louis, starting with allowing that part of you that feels diminished, which is as it is, when things do not go as you want ... This is not "give up" or crash. This is the beginning of the death of the ego, the false things that needs to be successful or to feel alive. In life it is normal that there are good times and bad, times of growth and recession. Just like a fallen tree is a source of new life, so are the bad times. The moments "ugly" are full of new life, full of instruction. We are never sad or angry about the successes that occur in those bad times. The feeling of sadness, anger, disappointment, frustration, dissatisfaction, they always taste the same, regardless of what happens. We may feel frustrated now for something, after 5 minutes the thing is resolved, but after half an hour something happens that does not go as expected and here resent the same emotion. Each person has recurring emotions which are meant to make you feel alive that the "timing" of you, be based on the false transient form, the ego.

When you feel the need to "lick your wounds," the feeling I'd call it "victim feeling" ... try to pay attention to how that particular need to tell yourself how unjust were the situations and people toward you. Be aware of the frequency in which this need to feel the victim is repeated through the days and weeks, that is, how often do you feel this sensation. We need balance, and this balance is when we understand that there is no light without oxen, Sound without silence, without a full load, and stop supporting it may be what we call "good without what we call" evil ", the growth without the recession, birth without death.

Louis ... you never "pissed off" for the reason that you believe to be so ...

Marcello.

Thanks Marcello for your thrilling and touching answer. You can easily publish this correspondence. Lately I'm gaining more and more frequently the ability to live in love, and balance. Then times like this happen when everything gets heavy, unbearable ... I do not think it's a real pissed off. It is a mixture of emotions.

You're right in the Marcellus write that what matters is ourselves regardless of what happens outside. But it is also true that our days are from work and if I make an assessment of what steps and how to work with my family there is no proportion or distract. So I want this time is well spent, in view of a convenience and do not spend days in the utterly inane. I think it's a healthy intake, do not think I annihilate this idea.

What do you think?

Louis,

I understand well what you say and I agree with you. Think about one thing though ... If you're at work often think how nice it would spend more time with your family but when you are with your family does not spend two minutes you arrive early concerns that keep you busy, and therefore also absent, This is completely in place and time where you are. Often, while being with your family or friends in fun, there is a feeling of sadness or worry, but even the smallest is always there.

The secret (which may be revealed to all) is to live everything that's happening "now", feeling it with all of your sensory abilities, being aware of the sensation of presence known within yourself, knowing that every emotion You are currently experiencing, whatever you have inside you right now is what you should watch. Even if you are currently doing work that you do not like and want to stay somewhere else, then this feeling of discount notes and surrender to it. Let it be ...

When you are driving and want to be there already where you're going or you're waiting in line at the bank, you know you can not help but use that time to be present within you. When you're in those situations of having to wait for something and know you can not do anything but wait, then give it up to that expectation and watch as your mind begins to love taking you to suffer from the anxiety of the future and regrets of the past, worries about the anger lived, as if reliving the injustices were happening at this time. Maybe watching this you may feel a strange discount but do not worry, this means you're looking good. Watch as a part of you feels at discount and note their reactions. You will notice a feeling of peace that gradually rises from the depths of who you are. You think you're just ignoring the problem? ... NO!. In this way you are connected with the source of the problem. It's like you're connecting a wire to the ground and downloading them all the accumulated tension. The situation does not disappear immediately, but you are no longer affected by the situation, and this happens soon. The fear disappears, the peace comes, and here begins to change the "how" things and not addressing the "thing" itself. Living "now" begin to not need to "believe" in something or something, but to "know" things, to live them inside.

You hope you can embrace the present moment with everything that you come forward at this time. And this does not mean that you agree more to improve, but it means that you live the present moment without having to fight against it.

This is the best wish you could do to anyone.

With affection.

Marcello