How to learn to see in 3 basic steps.
Downloaded e-book and listen to audiotraining related here: Learning to Find Serenity
Hello!
The entrance to Serenity is right to despair. If you experiment anxiety, worry, insecurity, fear or whatever makes you feel bad now, then I must tell you that you are getting close to the real joy than the one who apparently is already calmer than you.
I begin by showing you how, based on my daily experiences that are the best school for me.
Please note that:
- Experiences are LESSONS which usually lose. As usually lose them, we owe even SAY.
- Experience has two aspects: the episode itself, ie, the fact happened (outside U.S.) and the emotional aspect, ie, the emotions related to the episode (within us).
- The experiences they have no meaning except what we give, we have given the company from every single experience. The fact of the material, so to speak, is meaningless in itself per se. There is another mechanism that gives meaning to things or events, and this mechanism is within us.
Ok ... having said that I tell you what is the first step to learn to find peace of mind ...
Awareness
It is very easy to react to an "action" because the outer external action or event causes emotions that make us "jump" and act, and many times, this action is automatic, compulsive. As we know, often this type of act not to be fruitful. It is a repetitive act, not new and not as it should be, that is, adapted to the situation, creative!
Imagine throwing a ball against the wall and this, of course, comes back to you with a force more or less powerful depending on the intensity with which you have launched.
The Wall is the event, the ball is your attention. So, you "bounce" your attention to making it back to you, within your body, there where the emotion is generated, not just something draws your attention.
Be as interested in the events as to what events cause inside you. When I talk about events I am referring to situations in your life, people with whom you are dealing with, some failure, injustice received, news views on the news, disease, betrayal , "expect", etc.. In short, whatever happens in the "content" of your life.
Back to us ... The event has no substance, but the substance is what you feel with that event.
You can not even blame at this point, anyone, to any external situation to what you feel inside you. The blame for none. Or we can put it this way: the meaning that, because of repeated similar experiences, have given, is what triggers emotions in you unpleasant (or pleasant).
Perhaps there will be objections from you like, "Yeah but, not that I've wanted to rob me for the umpteenth time," or "I did not choose my boss", etc..
I'm sorry ... at any point in life you are to be guided by YOUR inner voice that tells you to accept, reject, be prudent to act quickly, to procrastinate, it's fair or not incavolarsi, commit, start something new, to change, to talk or be quiet / a, etc..
Learn to contemplate your emotions and these will take you there, where are your unconscious thoughts, your "program" inside, which, as an "automatic pilot", guiding you where perhaps you would have never chosen to be there.
We shall now proceed to Step 2: What's the surface?
For several months I am engaged in listening to my emotions. Of course I'll be thinking that all they listen to their emotions and I'm starting to falter ... But here I show you what I mean:
Listening to my emotions does NOT mean that I follow all that tells me the excitement!.
Listening means to bring attention to what is happening now inside me and contemplate, try, try, assimilate emotion I feel.
You ... have the courage to "prove" the emotions that we do not like the look without wanting to take away from them, without wanting to change them, delete them, bury them.
Usually when we have a memory that hurts us, we try to forget it automatically doing something that distracts us.
On the surface, at that time, there's emotion. Do not try to bury it.
The fact is that we do not see the excitement because we are entertained by turning around the "meaning" which for us has that thing from the past, wake up that pain now.
We begin to talk internally about what that person has been unfair, imagine telling that person to discuss with our "reasons", etc..
Ok ... now let's try to focus on emotion, which basically, is a physical as it is only stored energy at that point in our body.
You know that true intelligence and creativity do not reside in the mind?
In dangerous situations, where there is time to start thinking what to do, is infinitely more active intelligence than that of thought. Automatically stops the mind and gives rise to a reaction out of our control that tends to save our lives. Try to remember any situation where you have experienced just what you've just described.
I made this introduction to tell you that emotion is a reaction of every cell of your body the energy of the unconscious thought related to that event.
That intelligence was telling you about, at that very moment, is showing you a "program" in action.
When you present a situation or person who wakes some feeling of regret, you may think that in this case your "program" function well because it is warning you that it is better not to trust ... BUT the fact is that it was your " program "or frame of mind to take you there, right in front of that situation or person for whom you have heard unpleasant emotion. In this case your mistrust related to that episode are not the solution but instead are the cause for which you are in front of that experience.
Now to the third step: Accompanying the thrill
The look, the follow, the company do, looking at locating the area in which it moves in your body.
It 's essential to note one thing soooo important, ie, do not assess what we feel as bad, horrible, disgusting, frightening, shameful, etc.. These are adjectives generarti pain and not the reaction of the body itself.
When you look at the emotion without "labeling", the emotional pain disappears, fades, and feel the energy spread inside your body, making you a little tickle, and then flow freely.
But if you "run" a judgment, no problem ... It looks like your mind, "the inner voice" automatically raises and tells her, judging events (which are meaningless).
For example: hot day ... you are the owner of a bathhouse, that because of this nice weather, you're enriching because people are all there to the sea from you. Now you are one who works under the same sun before and has no other choice but to devote himself to till the soil by hand. But now you are one who, in his living room with air conditioning, the day referred to above, does not feel "neither hot nor cold" and devotes himself to his favorite hobby, drink in hand.
From the same external condition you can try three different interpretations, different meanings associated with different emotions.
The hot day has no definitive meaning or absolute.
Remember:
- The meaning is within you and all those adjectives listed above are meant for you.
- When you're aware of what is moving inside you, you begin to heal, inner freedom begins.
- The worst enemy of happiness is within us.
Marcello Cicchini.
